Month: November 2017

The things I am thankful for in this season… (and some ideas on how to help someone who is grieving)…

Thanksgiving was always one of Ben and my favorite holidays… we loved having family and friends over and prided ourselves in inviting anyone over that didn’t have somewhere else to go. For us, the more people to attend, the better.  We enjoyed their food,…

I’m learning to do hard things…

And just like that, three months have gone by.  If I have learned anything in those three months, it is that I can do hard things.  Things I never wanted to, things that I pray I never have to do again, and things that…

Grief requires a whole lot of grace…

One of the biggest lessons I have learned through grief is grace… “I was really praying that he would live through the holidays,” a friend told me recently.   “Really?  I asked, “I was kind of praying he would live forever.”  She meant well, but…

He left us speechless…

These are the words shared by Ben’s sister, Beka at the service honoring his life: The last few days I’ve struggled with words to say today.  To me it seems I can’t find anything to say that encompasses who Ben was to so many. …

Hear and Do- The Shema

These are the words that Benjamin’s mom shared at the service honoring his life: This is the scripture that Benjamin wanted shared— Deuteronomy 6:4-9 “Hear, O Israel! The Lord our God, the Lord is one and you are to love the Lord your God…

What Good Can Come From This?

These are the words that Benjamin’s brother Micah shared at his service in August.  They are a reminder of both the life that Benjamin lived and the good that can sometimes come from what seems like a bad situation: I would like to share…

Whatever You Do, Do it With All Your Heart!

This is the eulogy shared by Benjamin’s youngest brother Nathan at his service in August: I was torn with the task of delivering these remarks because of the emotional nature of the events of this week.  I found out that Ben had put in…