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Are You Really Living?

               If you have followed my blog for any amount of time, you know that I write a lot about fear and refusing to live in fear of the unknown.  I try to embrace each and every day the way that Ben would have wanted us to, without being afraid of what may lie ahead. … Continue reading Are You Really Living?

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A Widow’s Reflection on the Nation’s Crisis…

I have reflected a lot the past two years on all I learned from Ben and about the ways that God prepared me for losing him before he was gone. And in the last few days I have read countless posts by people who are overwhelmed by the current situation in our country and all… Continue reading A Widow’s Reflection on the Nation’s Crisis…

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The world doesn’t have to be scary… unless we let it…

My kids and I aren’t sick, but with an extended break from regular school attendance looming in front of us we have been doing a lot of talking about what that means for us. I’ve always been super cautious when it comes to parenting. I limited my kids exposure to toxins and sugar and chemicals… Continue reading The world doesn’t have to be scary… unless we let it…

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Waiting for my life to begin…

Earlier this week I listened to my kids in the back of the car conversing about things to come in the months ahead… “I can’t wait until…”; “I’m not going to enjoy anything until…” and my mind started rolling backwards to moments that I had wished away from my life. Have you ever anticipated and… Continue reading Waiting for my life to begin…

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Not Alone New Affirmations…

Last week I had the privilege of guest posting at https://mistyoerther.com/2019/10/16/not-alone-new-affirmations-guest-post-tricia-thirey/?fbclid=IwAR2C3rSmYQelsy-BIanPCOO5rdVzseCpZ9i8Rkwz1bkOzWGWFGQ1Aa_ZHq8 If you didn't get a chance, take a minute to check out what God taught me last year through a few sticky notes!

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Remembering to hope…

I remember a few months after Ben died meeting another lady who had recently lost her spouse.  I was so thankful to have someone who understood my pain and could relate to this uncertain new world I was entering.  When she invited me to a young widows support group I jumped at the opportunity.  I knew early on that surrounding myself with people who not only understood my pain, but who had been there, would make all the difference in how I navigated loss...

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All My Broken Pieces…

A few weeks ago, a friend referenced broken pottery when describing what happened to our family when we lost Ben.  Her analogy of our family shattering into a million pieces so accurately depicted how I have felt the last few years about the pain from this loss.  She validated how hard it has been to pick up all those pieces and try to put them back together.  No matter how much we try; we will never be able to pick all those pieces up and restore them perfectly to what we had before.

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You are not a statistic… and neither am I!

Have you ever been asked a question and after answering thought about all the things you should have said differently? I have. I’m notorious for sleepless nights spent overthinking every comment I have made and wondering if I said the right thing. Last summer a sweet boy questioned me about my roots. He was curious… Continue reading You are not a statistic… and neither am I!

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A Defining Moment…

Ask anyone who has experienced a life changing event, a death or a loss and they will likely tell you that there is a defining moment in time that divides their present life from the way that it used to be.  The memories, the thoughts, even the feelings are split in half by that one… Continue reading A Defining Moment…